Without delving into ghosting and the workplace right now, let’s just say it’s worked its way into the interview process and is no more pleasant than it is in the real world.

Books have been written and industries created to help both job seekers and those looking to fill positions. If one were to look carefully, you could find arguments supporting conflicting positions on what not to do in an interview. Employers have been coached up on what questions are permissible in this era governed by new laws and hurt feelings.

I’m not talking the corporate world interviewing the upper echelon executives as they navigate the world of golden parachutes and forced bankruptcies, but rather the average Joe, seeking a new gig.

Job seekers should be conducting their own interviews of the employers of those hired to conduct the dirty work. It’s more than doing proper research and making sure the language they use is Kosher. How do they conduct their business, in the interview? In some cases, you can see how an office runs or doesn’t and how they treat visitors.

In 67.3% of all interviews, the employer believes he/she has all the power in the relationship and in some cases they do. If one considers the hospitality world and food industry, the bosses may appear to have all the cards on their side, but the high turnover rate shows they often misplay their hands and could possibly have prevented this turmoil had they been more honest in the hiring process.

While employers may have the pick of the litter, they don’t appreciate they might be losing a customer in the process. In many cases the folks handling the interviews are just doing a job and trying to meet quotas.

In the end, treating people with respect is a pretty good strategy-especially if your business is in the business of treating customers with respect.